Tag: 2015
Motherhood Moments: Summer Mentality
As an adult there’s no such thing as a summer vacation. Not like as a kid when summer was full of lazy days, playing with friends and a long break from any responsibility. As an adult you’re still expected to work every day even though the weather is beautiful and you’d rather be lying in a hammock.
That’s why I was so surprised when last week suddenly felt like summer. Like lazy day, laid back, kid summer. Maybe it was because Big E had his last day of kindergarten or maybe it was just beautiful days of sun and warm weather, but something changed from the mundane. And it was awesome.
I found myself planning a barbeque for family dinner, spending time in the garden, swimming with my kids, and hiking to a nearby creek. When opportunities to be outside arose I took them and put off my regular work (and blogging too). I appreciated the warmth and fun and happy vibe.
I was happier just being outdoors playing with my kids. And doing that I realized that my kids have a Summer Mentality ALL THE TIME! Here’s one lesson I can learn from them. Their outlook is always to look for the fun whether it’s playing with rocks or splashing in a stream. Is there a way I could look for fun even in the work I do? Can I have a Summer Mentality all the time?
Life requires work, which by definition isn’t very fun. Laundry, for example. The constant pile of dirty clothes on the floor of my kids’ rooms does not contribute to a laid back, happy, summer mentality mom. But is there a way I could look for fun while doing the laundry?
I’m not sure if this will work all the time but here are some things I’ve tried to help focus on the things that really matter (like my kids) and off the things that don’t (like cleaning the house).
1. Go somewhere. When I’m at home with my kids I can easily ignore them. When we’re out in nature I’m much more interested in what they’re thinking, saying and playing.
2. Break a dreaded task down into 100 steps. If there’s something I’m avoiding, like cleaning out the garage, it helps to write out the project into micro steps. One – gather garbage bags. Two – walk outside. Three – open garage door. Etc.
3. Lower expectations. I don’t need a clean house. I can live without tackling the home renovation project we had planned. If my family is healthy and happy that’s good enough for me.
As I try harder to have a summer mentality I hope it will make life a little happier and more relaxed. That will be best for everyone.
The Worst Campout Ever
Last weekend Mountain Dad and I were excited to get outdoors on the first campout of the season. That excitement blinded us to the fact that camping with a two month old, three year old and six year old in the rain may be a tougher task than we were able to handle. We so wanted to get out! So what that the forecast called for rain all weekend. Surely it wouldn’t actually rain all weekend?
Thus began the worst campout ever. It started with rain while packing up, a registration mistake requiring a trip to the DMV and indecision on the destination. Our camping confidence was artificially inflated and instead of taking the downpour and DMV as omens of a terrible weekend we plowed on, thinking of the promises made to the preschooler and kindergartener.
We had decided to go to Fruita, Colorado because of its off road and mountain bike trails. Then the weather made us consider a destination in Southern Utah, but we ended up in Fruita after trusting too much on our phone’s up to the minute satellite weather report and taking a detour into a blizzard. Well, not quite but pretty cold and slushy.
We arrived late and hungry, set up camp and had a fire. I spent most of my time taking care of Mountain Baby leaving Mountain Dad and his brother to start a fire, set up tents, prepare dinner, cook, wash dishes and entertain Big E, little g and their cousin Eden.
Over the next few days the problems continued. We got lost. Little g refused to use the pit toilet. Rain kept us in the tent. One morning Big E puked. Mountain Baby needed to be held, fed and changed at the most inconvenient times. Kids fought. Parents were exhausted. We packed up in the rain. And on the drive back I had a minor accident, bending the metal on the trailer’s wheel well, just to add a rancid cherry on top of an already putrid cake.
Never before have I had such a hard time camping. Our family enjoys camping. We’re normally good at it. We have good gear. We eat good food. We all have fun. But sometimes it’s just not worth the extra work. Now I know. There is a point where getting outdoors just isn’t worth the extra effort.
I’m counting this trip as a learning experience. It would’ve been better to disappoint the kids and stay home on this one, but we couldn’t have known that when we started out. Now I’m implementing a three strikes policy. If three unforeseen problems arise on our next camping adventure it’s a sign that it’s not meant to be.
For the Love of Mom Contest
What is a blog if not a place to brag and what better person to brag about than Mom?
I’m proud to be a winner in the For The Love of Mom blog post contest hosted by Tales of a Mountain Mama. My guest blog post I’ll Always Need a Mother is live today. Please go check it out!
While you’re there make sure to enter Amelia’s awesome Mother’s Day Giveaways. Just nominate a mom in your life for some amazing prizes.
Happy Mother’s Day to all!